Stress Relief

When you spend your life putting pressure on yourself to go from start to finish without appreciating and learning along the way, you are doing yourself an injustice. If you can stop and appreciate everything in the middle maybe your journey would not be as stressful.

One of the main reasons you may become stressed is a direct result of having too many thoughts bouncing around in your head. Try choosing your most important thought and concentrate on that first. The rest will follow all in good time.

When you are stressed, you feel overwhelmed and you may not be capable of thinking as clearly as you should. If you feel yourself jumping from task to task, take a deep breath, hold it, and let that stress out. You can accomplish everything if you take one thing at a time.

If you can manage your own life and have complete power over what you wish to achieve, you can actually reduce stress. Separate and focus on your daily goals and set practical expectations of yourself.

Yes, there are times we all feel a little stressed, but it is how you allow yourself to react which will measure your ability to overcome it. If you can find something positive to learn in any situation, you will be able to control your state of well-being.

One of the key elements to overcoming stress is learning how to write down the thoughts you have on your mind. When you can clearly see and organize your thoughts, you may then learn how to manage them one at a time, rather than all at once.

Exercise
Three Steps to follow for a quick dose of stress relief:
1. Go lie down on your bed and take 3 easy breaths.
2. Close your eyes and take 3 easy breaths, but this time, make them deeper and slower…
3. Imagine yourself at your favorite spot with your favorite people –

Don’t worry about thoughts that come in, just relax and feel the essence of what is within you.

Feelings are important. Aim for Happy, Joyous feelings.
After 15 minutes get up go for a nice 10 to 15 minute casual walk.
Then go back to your daily activities.

You will find that your stress is gone. Negative comments, feelings and people will not bother you as much.

 


Practice this every day and your life will change for the better!

Perception and Attitude

When our hearts and souls are sick, our bodies get sick as well.

The Kabbalah teaches that the world we live in is a product of our perception of reality, and our attitude toward life, determines the world we live in.

Each of us has a choice. You can choose to believe that this world is filled with the light and presence of the Almighty who guides it and cares about it. Or you can believe that this world is one big accident, a chaotic mess. The choice is totally yours, but remember; What you believe creates what you will see, feel and experience in life.

So the question is: How would I act if I sincerely consciously believed that God’s presence filled my life, my home, my world? How would I speak to and treat my family and friends? How would I face the tough times and challenges knowing that the light is with and all around me?

The way to increase our Divine consciousness and invite The Light to pour into our world, is by walking the talk – Taking actions such as:

1) Helping those in need around us.

2) Being more loving and genuine in our daily interactions.

3) Smiling at the person next to us in the elevator and saying “hello.”

4) In general, making a bigger effort to Care/Love

With-out our efforts and consciousness, the light of God can’t illuminate our world. We need God and God needs us.

It’s amazing when we take off in an airplane on a dark, cloudy, gloomy day, how bright it actually is once we get passed the clouds – the sky is blue and the sun is shining in full force. Always try to remind yourself during dark times in your life, that the light is still shining. You just need to pierce through the clouds and let the Sunshine in. The darkness comes only because (and when) something is blocking the light.

It’s important to take some time for introspection. It’s equally as important to take action and become a Divine Light Shining Partner.

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Living What You Love

We could all use more LOVE in our lives, and the more we give the more we get.

Samuel ibn Magrela was a Spanish-Jewish poet of the eleventh century who was vizier to the king of Granada. He was cursed one day in the presence of the king, who commanded Samuel to punish the offender by cutting out his tongue. The Jewish vizier, however, treated his enemy kindly, whereupon the curses became blessings.

When the king next noticed the offender, he was astonished that Samuel had not carried out his command. Samuel replied, “I have torn out his angry tongue, and given him instead a kind one.” The Rabbis rightly declare, “Who is mighty? S/He who makes his enemy a friend.” (Avot d’Rabbi Nathan 23)

We can take this statement even further and say “Who is mighty? S/He who makes her/himself a friend.” Lack of love for ourselves inhibits our compassion toward others. When we make friends with ourselves, there are no obstacles to opening our hearts and minds to others. Of course we have to walk a fine line between loving/valuing ourselves and being too self-involved/absorbed.

Loving oneself certainly doesn’t mean indulging oneself. Loving is an attitude towards yourself that most people don’t have, because most people know things about themselves which are not desirable. Everybody has innumerable attitudes, reactions, likes and dislikes which they’d be better off without.

Self Judgment is made and while one likes one’s positive attitudes, one dislikes the others. With that comes suppression of those aspects of yourself that you’re not pleased with. You don’t want to know about them and don’t acknowledge them. That’s one way of dealing with your-self, which can be detrimental to growth.

Another unskillful way is to dislike that part of yourself which appears negative and every time it arises you blame yourself, which makes matters twice as bad as they were before. With that comes fear and very often aggression.
If you wants to deal with yourself in a balanced way, it’s not useful to pretend that the unpleasant part doesn’t exist, I am talking about those aggressive, irritable, conceited tendencies.

The charge of “I’m so wonderful” or “I’m so terrible” is defused. We are neither wonderful nor terrible. Everyone is a human being with all the potential and all the obstructions. If you can love that human being, the one that is “me” with all its faculties and tendencies, then you can love others realistically, usefully and helpfully.

If we look at ourselves in that manner, we will learn to love ourselves in a wholesome way. Just as a mother, who at the risk of her life loves and protects her child… Become your own mother! If we want to have a relationship with ourselves that is realistic and conducive to growth, then we need to become our own mother. A sensible mother can distinguish between that which is useful for her child and that which is detrimental, but she doesn’t stop loving the child when s/he misbehaves.

This may be the most important aspect to look at in ourselves. Everyone, at one time or another, misbehaves in thought, speech or action. So what do we do with that? What does a mother do? She tells the child not to do it again, loves the child as much as she’s always loved her/him and just gets on with the job of bringing up her child. Maybe we can start to bring up ourselves.

When you Love yourself enough, you will move through your Heart to the negative pole, and begin the work of bringing all your negative thoughts, feelings, words, and actions to consciousness.

The energy of your Self-Love will begin the movement of these negative patterns through your heart, and toward the positive pole of your soul. It takes stamina, courage, strength, relentless attention, and great Self-Love, to move from inertia into momentum toward the positive pole.

Find a way to be thankful for your troubles, and they can become your blessings.

Carrot Egg or Coffee Bean?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling.

It seemed that, as one problem was solved, a new one arose. Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.

She let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes, she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me, what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the young woman replied. The mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water – but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened! The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” the mother asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?” Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong but, with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit but, after a death, a breakup, or a financial hardship, does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hours are the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

The Eight Spiritual Essentials

Based on the teachings of Rabbi Joseph H. Gelberman

Think of these “essentials” as the eight rungs on a ladder leading upward toward greater consciousness.

  1. The first rung is to be One with the self, the soul, and שכינה Shekinah – Creator’s indwelling feminine presence.
  2. The second rung is to forgive the past and look forward to the future with Joy and excitement.
  3. The third rung is to open the mind, letting the soul fly into unknown space.
  4. The fourth rung is to consider what our true mission in life is, and to be totally Alive to that mission
  5. The fifth rung is to be ready once again to hear the message given at Mount Sinai, to “love your neighbor as yourself.”
  6. The sixth rung is to learn the art and science of living spiritually; Healthy in body, mind and soul.
  7. The seventh rung is to experience genuine love and know the difference between pleasure, happiness and joy.
  8. The eighth rung is to reunite the divided self in order to know the glory of Oneness of the Universe.

One of the most important concepts to remember is that without human effort, the Creator will remain unredeemed. Creator only lives where Creator is invited. In other words, we are responsible for Creator’s intervention on earth.

If you want the Creator in your life, all you need to do is call. This is one of the important keys to understanding of spirituality. There’s an interactive arrangement between The Light and yourself.

Spirituality is a quest for true knowledge and understanding that will lead you to explore the very depths of your heart and soul in order to receive Love & Light.

May the light always shine brightly on you and may Joy find you at every corner.

Exercise

Watch your thoughts; they become words.
Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character.
Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Meditate on the following passages and invite The Creator to a dialogue as you do so:

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May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O CREATOR, my Rock and my Redeemer. (Psalm 19:14)
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I will meditate on all your works and consider all your mighty deeds.
(Psalm 77:12)
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Let me understand the teaching of your precepts; then I will meditate on your wonders. (Psalm 119:27)
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How To Increase Your Divine Consciousness

When our hearts and souls are sick, 
our bodies get sick as well.

Kabbalah teaches, that the world we live in is a product of our perception of reality, and our attitude toward life, determines the world we live in.

Each of us has a choice. You can choose to believe that this world is filled with the light and presence of the Almighty who guides it and cares about it. Or you can believe that this world is one big accident, a chaotic mess. The choices are totally yours, but remember, what you believe creates what you will see, feel and experience in life.

So the question is: How would I act if I sincerely consciously believed that God’s presence filled my life, my home, my world? How would I speak to and treat my family and friends? How would I face the tough times and challenges knowing that the light is with and all around me?

The way to increase our Divine consciousness and invite The Light to pour into our world is by walking the talk – Taking actions such as:

  •  Helping those in need around us.
  •  Being more loving and genuine in our daily interactions.
  • Smiling at the person next to us in the elevator and saying “hello.”
  • In general, making a bigger effort to Care/Love

With-out our efforts and consciousness, The Light can’t illuminate our world.

We need Ein-Sof and Ein-Sof needs us. *

It’s amazing when we take off in an airplane on a dark, cloudy, gloomy day, how bright it actually is once we get passed the clouds – the sky is blue and the sun is shining in full force. Always try to remind yourself during dark times in your life that the light is still shining. You just need to pierce through the clouds and let the Sunshine in. The darkness comes only because (and when) something is blocking the light.

It’s important to take some time for introspection. It’s equally as important to take action and become a Divine Light Shining Partner.

Exercise:

In order to begin building or re-building your self-esteem , you have to accept who you are by reinforcing a positive self-image. If you have grown into the habit of thinking negatively about yourself, you will need to train yourself to achieve the opposite.

The following lists can help remind you of your worth when you are feeling down on yourself:

  • 10 things you can do to make yourself laugh.
    Do at least one a day!
  • 10 things you can do to make someone else laugh.
  • 10 POSITIVE things about your personality.
  • 10 ways to help another person.

After completing these lists, go back periodically and look at them. This will serve as a good reminder of all the positive things you are made of, and will help cheer you up when you’re having a bad, “self-defeating” day.

* Ein Sof, or Ayn Sof (/eɪn sɒf/, Hebrew: אין סוף), in Kabbalah, is understood as God prior to his self-manifestation in the production of any spiritual realm, probably derived from Ibn Gabirol's term, "the Endless One" (she-en lo tiklah).

HOW TO CHANGE NAME ON SOCIAL SECURITY CARD

If you legally change your name because of marriage, divorce, court order or any other reason, you need to tell Social Security so that you can get a corrected Social Security card. If you are working, also tell your employer. In order to get a correct social security card you will need to provide documentation that proves you are a US citizen, legal name change and your identity.

All documents must be either originals or copies certified by the issuing agency. The social security office will not accept photocopies, notarized copies of documents or receipts showing you applied for the document. Social Security may use one document for two purposes, such as using your US passport as proof of both citizenship and identity. However you are still required to provide at least two separate documents. This page assumes you are an adult and a US citizen.

DOCUMENTATION FOR US CITIZENSHIP
Only certain documents are accepted as proof of US citizenship. These include a US birth certificate or a US passport. This documentation is only required if you have not already established citizenship with the SSA.

DOCUMENTATION TO PROVE IDENTITY
Certain documents are accepted as proof of identity. An acceptable document must be current and show your name, identifying information, which includes date of birth or age, and preferably a recent photograph. Some example documents used for proof of identity Social Security would be a US driver’s license, State-issued non-driver identification card or a US passport.

If you do not have one of these specific documents or you cannot get a replacement document within 10 days then they will ask to see other documentation which may include an employee ID card, School ID card, Health insurance card (not a Medicare card) or a US military ID card.

DOCUMENTATION TO LEGAL NAME CHANGE
If you need to change your name on your Social Security card, you must show them a recently issued document as proof of your legal name change. Documents that may be accepted to prove legal name change are marriage documents, divorce decree, Certificate of Naturalization showing a new name or court order for a name change.

If the document you provide as evidence of a legal name change does not give enough information to identify you in their records or if you changed your name more than two years ago, you must show an identity document in your prior name. They will accept an identity document in your old name that has expired. If you do not have an identity document in your prior name, they may accept an unexpired identity document in your new name, as long as they can properly establish your identity in their records.

FILL OUT AND PRINT APPLICATION FORM
Once you have the necessary documents the next step would be to print out the social security card application and fill it out. Once you fill it out and print it you need to then either take it to your local social security office or mail it to the office. You can find the document here, Social Security Application Form Continue reading HOW TO CHANGE NAME ON SOCIAL SECURITY CARD