If you legally change your name because of marriage, divorce, court order or any other reason, you need to tell Social Security so that you can get a corrected Social Security card. If you are working, also tell your employer. In order to get a correct social security card you will need to provide documentation that proves you are a US citizen, legal name change and your identity.

All documents must be either originals or copies certified by the issuing agency. The social security office will not accept photocopies, notarized copies of documents or receipts showing you applied for the document. Social Security may use one document for two purposes, such as using your US passport as proof of both citizenship and identity. However you are still required to provide at least two separate documents. This page assumes you are an adult and a US citizen.

Only certain documents are accepted as proof of US citizenship. These include a US birth certificate or a US passport. This documentation is only required if you have not already established citizenship with the SSA.

Certain documents are accepted as proof of identity. An acceptable document must be current and show your name, identifying information, which includes date of birth or age, and preferably a recent photograph. Some example documents used for proof of identity Social Security would be a US driver’s license, State-issued non-driver identification card or a US passport.

If you do not have one of these specific documents or you cannot get a replacement document within 10 days then they will ask to see other documentation which may include an employee ID card, School ID card, Health insurance card (not a Medicare card) or a US military ID card.

If you need to change your name on your Social Security card, you must show them a recently issued document as proof of your legal name change. Documents that may be accepted to prove legal name change are marriage documents, divorce decree, Certificate of Naturalization showing a new name or court order for a name change.

If the document you provide as evidence of a legal name change does not give enough information to identify you in their records or if you changed your name more than two years ago, you must show an identity document in your prior name. They will accept an identity document in your old name that has expired. If you do not have an identity document in your prior name, they may accept an unexpired identity document in your new name, as long as they can properly establish your identity in their records.

Once you have the necessary documents the next step would be to print out the social security card application and fill it out. Once you fill it out and print it you need to then either take it to your local social security office or mail it to the office. You can find the document here, Social Security Application Form Continue reading HOW TO CHANGE NAME ON SOCIAL SECURITY CARD

Shalom Aleichem |Who Are The Angels?

Rabbi Joseph H. Gelberman, a renowned kabbalist Rabbi (and my Master teacher) said:
“Not being aware of the angels presence in our lives is like having a billionaire uncle in califonia who died and left you millions of dollars. Unless you’re aware of that uncle, you’re never going to get that money…”

The word “angel” actually comes from the Greek word aggelos, which means “messenger.” The matching Hebrew word mal’akh has the same meaning.
Sometimes, the Bible uses these words for human beings:

• ordinary people who carry messages (Job 1:14)
• Prophets (Isaiah 42:19; Malachi 3:1)
• Priests (Malachi 2:7)

Sometimes, it speaks figuratively of things or events as “messengers:”

• The pillar of cloud (Exodus 14:19)
• Pestilence or plagues (2 Samuel 24:16-17)

But it usually describes the whole range of spirits whom God has created, including both good and evil angels, and special categories such as cherubim, seraphim, and the archangel.

Anyone of us is capable of being an angel when we become aware of the world around us. When we lend a helping hand, do acts of loving kindness, cheer someone up etc, we become angels. Similarly, we are also capable of connecting with our spiritual angels who protect and guide us.

Have you ever experienced an immense feeling of joy and serenity on a beautifully warm spring day? Your whole being is elated and when you look around the whole world seems to glow. You are experiencing the glorious touch of your guardian angel who is reminding you of the beauty of life and light.

Your gut feelings are often angels trying to convey a message to you. Angels can fly directly into the heart of the matter. They are never too distant to hear you. Friends are kisses blown to us by angels. In fact, anyone can be an angel. So find your passion, fight for the things you believe in, and offer your talents and wisdom to people who need them, because, we are all angels, whether we like it or not.

A wealthy Beggar – A Story of Inner Light

One day, Sam, a poor man came home from work tired and exhausted. He begged The Creator for just a little treasure. All of a sudden, Sam noticed a little purse lying near his feet. A heavenly voice said to him: “Take this purse as a gift from Creator. You will find a single coin inside, and the moment you take it out, another coin will take its place – until you throw the purse into the river. The moment you spend the first coin, the purse will lose its magic powers.”

By that evening, Sam had succeeded in gathering a full sack of coins from the purse, but there was no bread left in the house, because he would not spend a single coin to buy food for himself. “I will gather another sack of money, and only then throw the purse into the river and begin to spend the coins.” That day Sam asked a neighbor for bread and on the following day he went out to beg for bread in the streets, because, as he said, “It won’t do me any harm if I fill another sack with coins before I spend the money and throw the wonderful purse into the river.” And so he continued to beg for bread and to gather coins until the end of his days, never spending anything because he did not want to part with his wonderful purse. Sam died a very rich man and his home was filled with sacks of coins – but he died still a poor beggar.

Sam did not realize that in order to truly change his life, he needed more than just money and material possessions. He failed to realize that what he really needed was a different outlook, a change of direction. Even when his wishes/prayers were answered, he was “stuck” in a rut and couldn’t see beyond his negative feelings of fear, greed, the self perception that he was nothing but a poor beggar.

Often, like Sam, we don’t realize our potential and strengths. We wish to have this, and hope to become that. Then, when our prayers are answered, we forget to enjoy what we have. As a result, we keep it all to ourselves and forget to share with world.

It’s easy to get caught up in negativity and self loathing, sometimes it may even give us comfort. But consider this; instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing. The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible. The difference between can and cannot are only three letters. Three letters that determine your life’s direction. Share your inner light without fear and or doubt. Light is good from whatever lamp it shines.

Post Wedding Ceremony Customs

After the wedding ceremony, the married couple retreat to a seclusion room and rejoin their guests for a festive meal.

Yihud – It is a Jewish tradition for the married couple to have some alone time
immediately following their wedding. Some couples stay in yihud for 18 minutes,
the numerical equivalent of the “Chai”, meaning life, and considered good luck.
Yihud provides a period of respite for the newly married couple, an interval of tranquility for them to enjoy together in total solitude amidst the turmoil of the wedding. It is customary for the two to have their first meal as husband and wife together in the yihud room. Both will have been fasting all day, and this food will be their first of the day.

It is important that the yihud room be prepared before the wedding. It should provide absolute privacy. It should also have food for a light repast for the couple.

Festive Wedding Meal – The wedding meal is a joyous feast, punctuated by lively Jewish wedding tunes and dancing. When the married couple leave the yihud room to enter the banquet hall during the wedding feast, they are greeted and raised up on chairs by their guests, as the assembled guests dance around them.

It is considered a great mitzvah, (obligatory acts of love for others), to cause the bride and groom to rejoice at their wedding.

Hora Dance – Usually danced to the Hava Nagila, this traditional Jewish
celebration dance is sure to get everyone up on the dance floor and get the party

Breaking Of The Glass

This is the final ritual of the Jewish wedding ceremony.

The origins of breaking a glass at a wedding are unclear. Many cultures share the practice of breaking something, such as a plate, upon the confirmation of a contract. Some believe the noise made by the shattering of a glass or plate scares away evil spirits determined to mar the joyous occasion.

Many rabbis explain that the breaking of a glass reminds us that relationships are fragile and must be taken care of, lest the break. Since this is a matter of custom and not religious law, there are no rules guiding what should be broken. Many people choose a light bulb because it is easy to break and may make a louder noise. If you are using a glass, one made of thin material and with a short stem will be easier to break. In either case, whatever is broken should be well wrapped in a thick cloth napkin.

Sheva Brachot |7 Blessings

The seven blessings for the bride and groom
can be recited by the Rabbi or Cantor, or a selection of honored guests.
The number 7 has special significance in the Jewish culture –
It’s a very spiritual/”lucky” number.

Also known as birkot nissuin (Hebrew: ברכות נישואין‎), “the wedding blessings” in Jewish law are blessings that are recited for a bride and her groom as part of nissuin. In Jewish marriages there are two stages – betrothal (erusin) and establishing the full marriage (nissuin); historically there was a year between the two events, but in modern marriages, the two are combined as a single wedding ceremony.

Though the Sheva Brachot are a stylistically harmonious whole, they are actually a mosaic of interwoven Biblical words, phrases and ideas. It is not certain who composed the benedictions; the text is recorded in the Talmud,[1] but its origin is probably several centuries earlier.

The following are the Seven Blessings: – Transliterated and Translated:

1. Baruch Ata Adonai, Elohainu Melech HaOlam, SheHakol Borah Lichvodo.

Blessed are You, G-d, our L-rd, King of the universe, Who has created everything for His glory.
Sheva Brachot |Blessing 1



2. Baruch Ata Adonai, Elohainu Melech   HaOlam, Yotzer Ha’Adam      

Blessed are You, G-d, our L-rd, King of the universe, Who fashioned the Man.

Sheva Brachot |Blessing 2



3. Baruch Ata Adonai, Elohainu Melech HaOlam, Asher Yatzar Et Ha’Adam Betzalmo, b’Tzelem Dmut Tavnito, VeHitkon Lo Mimenu Binyan Adei Ad. Baruch Ata Adonai Yotzer Ha’Adam 

Blessed are You, G-d, our L-rd, King of the universe, Who fashioned the Man in His image, in the image of his likeness and prepared for him from himself a building for eternity. Blessed are You G-d, Who fashioned the man.

Sheva Brachot |Blessing 3




4. Sos Tasis VeTagel HaAkarah, BeKibbutz Bane’ha Letocha BeSimchaa. Baruch Ata Adonai, Mesame’ach Tzion BeVaneha

Bring intense joy and exultation to the barren one through the ingathering of her children amidst her in gladness. Blessed are You, G-d, Who gladdens Zion with her children. Sheva Brachot |Blessing 4



5. Sameach TeSamach Re’im Ahuvim, KeSamechacha Yetzircha BeGan Eden MiKedem. Baruch Ata Adonai, MeSame’ach Chatan VeKalah

Gladden the beloved companions as You gladdened Your creatons in the garden of Eden from the earliest time. Blessed are You, G-d, Who gladdens groom and bride. Sheva Brachot |Blessing 5



6. Baruch Ata Adonai, Elohainu Melech HaOlam, Asher Barah Sasson VeSimcha, Chatan VeKalah, Gila Rina, Ditza VeChedva, Ahava VeAchava, VeShalom VeRe’ut. MeHera Adonai Eloheinu Yishama BeArei Yehudah U’Vchutzot Yerushalayim, Kol Sasson V’eKol Simcha, Kol Chatan V’eKol Kalah, Kol Mitzhalot Chatanim MeChupatam, U’Nearim Mimishte Neginatam. Baruch Ata Adonai, MeSame’ach Chatan Im Hakalah.

Blessed are You, G-d, our L-rd, King of the universe, Who created joy and gladness, groom and bride, mirth, glad song, pleasure, delight, love, brotherhood, peace, and companionship. G-d, our L-rd, let there soon be heard in the cities of Judah and the streets of Jerusalem the sound of joy and the sound of gladness, the voice of the groom and the voice of the bride, the sound of the grooms’ joy from their canopies and of the youths from their song-filled feasts. Blessed are You G-d Who gladdens the groom with the bride. Sheva Brachot |Blessing 6






7. Baruch Ata Adonai, Elohainu Melech HaOlam, Boreh Pri HaGafen.

Blessed are You, G-d, our L-rd, the King of the universe, creator of the fruit of the vine. Sheva Brachot |Blessing 7

Hakafot – Circling

Jewish wedding ceremonies traditionally begin with the
bride circling the groom seven times. Circling,
symbolizes creating an invisible wall of love and protection.
To make this ritual more egalitarian, some couples
choose to hold hands and walk the seven circles together.

*It’s also popular (and often preferred) for the bride and groom to do 3 circles each, and the 7 circle together.